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  • pat martinez

    what about pot smokers?what damage does it cause them.

  • Boatcopso

    My wife has been drinking for all her life since she was 16 and now 56. She stooped for about 4 years that I knew and stated again to a [point she began drinking several bottles a day straighr out of the bottle. Than was know as a doctoe shopper and began taken pills along with drinking. I once took her to a docgtor and he just about told us that she was a walking dead person gave her a few weeks to live. She was placed in a rehab butwent back to old habits. To top all off she came home from her’s friend home and after drivking and pilling came home at which time I remove the vehicle key from room due to last time went she left to buy more liquid came home with a vehicle ccident to the entire front going, she called her friend who byt the way was giving her drinks and she calls police and quest what she tells police I hit her and I end up in jail. All her friend who help her found out real fast her condition and problem with drinking and pilling. So the good person who try’s to safe a life ends in jail. The story goes on but allin all yes drinking can effect alife and anyone attached to that person. She is alway complaining about pain and sicknes using this a s out for her lfetime problem. I have been fighting this major problem for over 10 years and the problem is that she stooped for about a month one slip is all it takes and back we go for another round. What recourse do I have just leave and let a person who turly needs help die or just bare with the problem and live day by day.

    • Carolynconnor

      We all know it is one day at a time. I’m in a Position that I love my husband but can’t live with him. For our own sanity we need to look at ourselves and try to make a new life and move on!!! I can’t do this at the moment even though I walked out of my alcoholic marriage 8mts ago. What more can we do if our loved one doesn’t want help. The love of my husbands life is alcohol. I realise this but can’t accept it. We’ve been together for almost 36years, married for 24yrs this July. What do I do???

    • BeenThereDoneThat

      @boatscops and Carolynconnor
      As difficult as this will be for you to hear, and as a recovering alcoholic myself, (48-year-old female, sober five years), what you must do is leave the marriages. Your spouse’s disease has now become your disease and you cannot effectively help these people anymore. When they want help to quit, they will tell you, but until that time prepare for heartache because that is all you will know. They are killing themselves, but they are also killing something inside of you and every one around them. For you to survive, you must tell your spouse that your relationship is over because of their drinking. Maybe, just maybe, this will be their rock bottom and they will decide to stop and seek help. That is their choice. You haven’t had a choice as you have been held hostage by their disease for years and years. You aren’t helping, and cannot help them anymore. If you were and could, they wouldn’t be this ill, would they? I hope the ultimatums work for you both as you both seem to love your spouses. Be kind to them, they are human beings in pain, but they have to know that the end has come to your tolerating their behaviour. Whatever happens, especially if the outcome is not good, none of this will have been your fault. They choose their life. ………..and now, you will have chosen to take back yours. God Bless You and your family.

  • David Broderick

    Has anyone got suggestions asto what I should do. My wife and I lived in Spain for some years where I became an alcoholic and my wife a heavy drinker but as a women for the amount she drinks, would be classed an alcoholic also. Which she disputes.I attended AA meetings in Spain and stopped drinking on a number of occasions. Sadly only to return to it, my wife who I love and still do gave no support, knocking the AA and constantly drinking around me even offering me the odd drink with a meal. Eventualy I would weaken and start again.
    So 4years ago I returned to the UK she remained in Spain on the pretext of looking after our house there. On my return I stopped for a while but lonliness and missing her got me back drinking. She would come to stay with me and once saved my life by forcing me to go to Hospital my liver being messed up, admitted for ten days and stayed dry for a year. During that period when she stayed she continued to drink infront of me, bringing drink into my flat. I eventually weakened and return to the drink, I then found that I could stop when she was back in Spain after the DTs but every time when she returns it’s the same thing I’m back on. I’m concerned as my DTs are getting worse and one day may kill me because I live alone not knowing anybody. Any ideas other than the obvious ie No more contact-Be stronger-Force a ban on her drinking when in my flat- Her arguement is I don’t force you to drink- How can I ge through to her I need her help. I know that I am being stupid but I love her and because of my lonliness it’s like a holiday when she stays. Must say feel better just by writing this.
    Thank you and good luck to everybody who has beaten this beast called alcohol

    • Ashley

      I hope you are still alive. AA is what saved my life, I’ve had several relapses followed by an even worse detox every time I stopped. My last one put me in the ER twice from the DT’s. Trust me please go to meetings every day, get a sponsor and work the steps, your obsession for alcohol will go away before you know it and your life will change for the better. I hope you find your way, from one alcoholic to another, trust the program. It works if you put the time and energy into it instead of your drinking.

  • steven

    for the last few years I’ve been binge drinking from time to time, a lot of alcohol at each time, from 1 to 4 times a month, so much that I would pass out (I’ve got great many problems in my life – with work, with my love life, everything is a mess, and I just wanted – and still want to, although I don’t touch alcohol anymore – get away from everything). before I didn’t notice any difference after the first few days of hangover, but things changed with the last time I did it. It was about three weeks ago, and I still haven’t recovered. I drank 35 cl of bacardi over the course of 5-6 hours. I have trouble concentrating much longer than a few minutes, and just coordinating my movements gets me exhausted, sweating and just wanting to go to someplace dark and quiet to rest. And I find that I forget things very quickly. I sleep for very many hours and it’s still the same. physical workout gives me some reprieve, but only temporarily and then it’s all the same.
    So, I’m totally gutted, devastated and desperate. How can one be so fucking stupid? I’ve wasted everything, my brain is gone. Most likely my life is all over, I can’t stand being like this. I can only perform the most basic of tasks, I guess my iq level has gone down to that of a 12-year old or something.
    Since it’s been three weeks I’ve basically lost hope.This article gave me a glimmer of hope while I read it, although it’s most probably in vain. Anyway, I felt good for a while writing this, I’ve got no one to share with, although that doesn’t matter really, my brain is fucked no matter if other people know about it or not. I’m sorry if the post was too long for some of you. And I’m sorry that this post is all about me, but I’m totally devastated and had to let it out somewhere.

    • John Lee

      Hi Steven,

      From what you write it doesn’t really sound like you’d have significant alcohol-related brain damage. Perhaps you should see a doctor to get a medical check-up, and assuming that comes back OK, consider talking to a therapist about anxiety or depression – which are pretty common and which can cause symptoms like you’re describing. Hope you’re feeling better soon…

    • LiberalLoner

      Sounds much more like early multiple sclerosis to me, and you may have been drinking to self medicate in that case. Best to see a doctor. I speak from experience, as I’ve had MS well over a decade now.

  • Teresa Reed MD

    Alcohol dependence is defined by consequences, not amounts of alcohol. A difficult concept to understand-I know.
    At this point each person must decide what comes first – their sobriety or their dysfunction.
    You, as a couple, are holding each other hostage.

    Separate paths of recovery for both your substance abuse and (much later) your co- dependence are in order.

    Many recovering individuals find that their “using” relationships are no longer consistent with long-term recovery and spiritual growth.

    I hope this helps