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  • Anonymous User
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    #16197

    when someone is walking around in a semi coma as theese people are doing who are hooked on pills and you name it how are they going to know they need help the way they see it you are the one who needs help i have 4 kids in thiere 40s who have been on drugs for years i cant do anything about it i am resolved to the fact that the stress i live in will end up killing me so i will go down with them and i dont do drugs but that is the way it is thanks to the law who protects them

    • Anonymous User
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      #16195

      I’am responding to your comment on your 4 grown kids as a Past addict of 13 years you are right they have no mind to think with, however there is Hope if you are not a praying Mother then I suggest for you and your kids you start seeking a relationship with the Messiah you can do it right there in your home trust me to break before Him he will begin to work! My Dear Mother prayed for me day and night for years and after her telling me to never come to her home again until I was clean or she would call the police God got ahold of me and I have been clean for 11 years totally clean ! My Sister you must cut your kids completely off no more money,no food,no place to crash if they show up call the police and have them removed see you are hindering them aslong as you help them they will continue to drive you crazy and take your health with it,if the worse happens and they die or get killed in there drug venture you cannot blame yourself once you cut them off, you have to do this or it will continue it has to start with you ending them taking advantage of you. I Thank God every day that my Mother cut me off from security of her and that the Messiah showed me that I needed Him all along. Start reading the scriptures every day aloud in your home and praying cry out to Him put locks on your house or apt., just Keep them Out! there not on the lease or mortage then they have No rights it is time for them to grow up and take responsibility for their actions. I will be praying for you and this situation along with you asking and praying my Sister! Have Faith!

    • Jeff Kelly
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      #16177

      Let me guess. You also consider Dave Ramsey a Messiah?

  • Anonymous User
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    #16196

    We just had an emergency hearing in WV for a 48 year old in law that lives near us. He has had a 25+ yr addiction to drugs and alcohol and is now unstable. In the last 3 mths the police have been called numerous times he has had 7 protection orders issued and has entered my home when my teens where home alone twice and brandished a gun, and hit my son, hit his own brother and pushed his elderly father down.
    There were 7 witnesses listed on the petition and none were interviewed or allowed to participate in the hearing only the petitioner. The petition was denied the Judge said there was no sign of danger he never told the petitioner he would “kill” her… I will post an update when he does kill or seriously injure someone.

  • Anonymous User
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    #16194

    My 26 year old son was the brightest in his class. He has been heavily on pills since he graduated. He has stolen, lied, cheated and unable to hold a job. My husband just got him a job starting at 20 an hour with a company truck gas card and benefits. He blew through everything. I am crying out to God. What do I do. I dont even know this person.

    • Jeff Kelly
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      #16167

      Please allow me to offer some suggestions with such limited information. First of all, every one of us was young once but some of us just don’t remember that. Secondly, the kind of “pills” he’s on most likely has something to do with this at least peripherally, including whether these are prescription pills for regular medical conditions or psychotropics instead. Thirdly, please do not let your heartache over this cripple your ability to love your son despite all of this, to get through too much to your pride, etc. and to take this too personally. Love is a great healer of many a thing, and to abandon that course is to abandon what could be a lifeline ultimately. Fourthly, realize that whatever you think you did do or didn’t do while he was under your care as a parent may not have a single thing to do with any of this. Fifthly, realize that he is an adult now and all you really can do is cry out to God at this point, but do so with the spirit of love in your heart without hint of condemnation either of yourself or of him or the man who fathered this child. These guidelines can be helpful if followed faithfully, although you must realize in this life we cannot change everything to our liking at all times and sometimes have to settle for less than the ideal or what we hoped for. Hope this helps a bit at least.

  • Angie_loves_eric
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    #16193

    I feel lost…Dont know what to do or how to help. I have tried everything. I have been dating a man over 8 years. He was awesome! Everything I could ask for .. the man of my dreams. I love him so much. The past 2 years he has turned to drugs. I don’t know how to help him. He is bad on coke and SEVERAL different perscription pills. He has even tried meth and acid. I am scared I am going to find him dead one day. We have a beautiful son who will be 3 soon. I want him to be around for him. I have moved out and Have been trying to show him he is losing everything even his family for drugs .. Its killing me to see him this way. I have even contacted the local authorities about the situation and even though I didn’t want to I told them everything i know about him. Hoping they will pick him up and he will go to jail. Least there I can put in for him to go to treatment. Its sad he needs help so bad but i cant do anything…

    • Eve
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      #16191

      Angie, I just read your comment. As the mother of a 42-year-old addict and alcoholic, I can say that you are doing the right thing. Tough love is not just a cliche. It really works, but people fail to realize that the “tough” part is toughest on the loved one (parents, wife, girlfriend, etc.), not the addict. The addict is a manipulator. He/she will try to make you feel guilty, just to get his/her way. Don’t fall for any tricks. Always be true to yourself and God, be ready for the worst, and hope for the best. Take care of yourself (because the addict certainly is taking care of himself). Keep up the good work. Evelyn

  • Alano
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    #16192

    Angie,  Try Al-Anon Family Groups-they will really help you: http://www.al-anon.alateen.org